It is common with us – expecting someone to be perfect, only to be disappointed when they inevitably fall short of our expectations. Whether in a romantic relationship, a family affair, or in friendship, we often place unrealistic expectations on others, forgetting that they are imperfect beings just like us.
This expectation of perfection can lead to frustration, resentment, and even anger. We may feel like we are constantly being let down, like the other people are failing us in some ways. But the truth is, nobody is perfect. We all have our own imperfection and weaknesses, our own flaws, and bad sides.
So why do we expect perfection from others? Sometimes, it is because we are trying to fill a void within ourselves. We may be seeking validation, love, favour, or acceptance, and we expect the other people to provide it. Other times, it could be because we have unrealistic ideals about what relationships or partnerships should look like.
*The Dangers of Expecting Perfection*
Expecting perfection from an imperfect being can be damaging and can lead to:
*Disappointment/Frustration*: When the other person inevitably fails to meet our expectations, we can feel disappointed and frustrated.
*Resentment/Anger*: If we feel like the other person is consistently failing us, we may start to feel resentful and angry.
*Unrealistic Expectations*: We may start to expect more and more from the other person, leading to unrealistic expectations that can never be met.
*Embracing Imperfection*
We can break free from the expectation of perfection by recognizing the following:
*Recognize that nobody is perfect*: We all have our own strengths and weaknesses, quirks and flaws. Recognizing this can help us be more realistic in our expectations.
*Focus on the positive*: Rather than focusing on what the other person is doing wrong, try to focus on what they’re doing right.
*Communicate openly and honestly*: Make sure to communicate openly and honestly with the other person, expressing your needs and expectations clearly.
*Note:*
Expecting perfection from an imperfect being is unrealistic and can be frustrating. By recognizing that nobody is perfect and focusing on the positive sides of others, we can build stronger, more realistic relationships.
Remember, it’s okay to be imperfect – it’s all part of being human.
Gbenga Emiloju (DMPII)
